What's Inside 'Should I Be A Lady Who Leaves'?

Module 1: You
If you do nothing else, this module has the power to change everything, both within your relationships and in every other aspect of your life. Because it gets to the heart of YOU. It’s like being your own detective, psychologist and coach: you’ll have a clear understanding of what drives you, what matters and what you really need from relationships.

What I Will Cover on this Module:

• Understand your attachment style
• Create your own personal values hierarchy
• Learn what roletrauma plays in your relationships

Module 2: Your Relationship
You’ll bring your newly-found self-knowledge to examine your relationship. After working through this module you’ll understand your relationship patterns, be able to specify how you know when things are going well, and how to communicate openly about what you want and need.

What I Will Cover on this Module:

• Reflect on your relationship history
• Communication in relationships
• Do you both want the same things?

Module 3: Your Options:
Now you have clarity on you and your relationship, it's time to consider the options and opportunities open to you. Neither decision is easy to make, or implement. There’s work ahead, but it’s a whole lot more manageable when you understand what you need to consider.

What I Will Cover on this Module:

• Emotional considerations of staying or leaving
• Practical and legal considerations of staying or leaving
• The impact of staying or leaving on your children

Module 4: Making A Decision
Flipping a coin, making a pros and cons list, asking your bestie: these are all ways to make decisions, and none of them are ideal! Module Four teaches you strategies to be confident in your decision-making so you can move forward with emotional freedom and clarity.

What I Will Cover on this Module:

• Learn the structure of good decision making
• Weigh up your options
• Create an action plan

Module 5: Next Steps:
A decision without a plan leaves you hanging! In this module I’ll walk you through everything you need to do to calmly, rationally, take the next steps with your decision. Having a plan means you’ll know what success looks like and you’ll stay focussed even when things get challenging.

What I Will Cover on this Module:

• Recommitting to your relationship
• Creating a divorce plan
• Seeing it through

Additional Bonuses:

Bonus One:
TRUST YOURSELF: A PRACTICAL GUIDE TO BEING YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND

A self-study guide to help you build trust in yourself. You’ll learn why developing trust in yourself is so vital for every relationship in your life. And I’ll share practice exercises to help you strengthen the trust muscle.

(A £67 Value)

What you'll get:

• Self-reflective journaling prompts
• Exercises in learning to trust your gut
• Mastering your inner critic

Bonus Two:
THE HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS CHECKLIST

What does a healthy relationship look like? What does it NOT look like? When you’re struggling with relationship doubts it’s hard to know. This checklist will help you diagnose the health of your relationship in an instant.

(A £67 Value)

What You'll Get:

• Relationship green flags
• What give and take looks like
• Red flags to watch out for

Bonus Three:
PRIVATE MEMBERS PODCAST

Weekly podcast episodes specifically curated for Should I Be a Lady a Lady Who Leaves. Let me offer added guidance, support and encouragement as you work through the modules, so you stay on track and get the most out of Should I Be A Lady Who Leaves

(A £100 Value)

What You'll Get:

Weekly episodes to support each of the five modules of 5-10 minutes
Bonus episodes to further enhance and support your journey
Additional PDFs to support the podcast

Bonus Four:
NAVIGATING HIGH-CONFLICT RELATIONSHIPS

Many women struggle to make decisions because they are in a high-conflict relationship. Recognising when you are in a high-conflict relationship is often challenging, but it’s crucial to getting the appropriate support and strategies in place to help you navigate your next steps.

(A £100 Value)

What You'll Get:

• Recognising high-conflict personalities
• Understanding how to manage a high-conflict personality
• Strategies for support

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Success Stories:

Let me tell you about Angela.

Angela came to me because she knew she’d made a mistake marrying Michael.

She’d wanted someone stable and calm (something she thought she wasn’t), but 8 years on, she was BORED.

Michael didn’t have the same zest for life she had.

Things came to a head over a solitary soggy courgette left at the back of the fridge.

Michael hated food waste and his meltdown when Angela dared bin the decaying vegetable was the last straw.

Angela knew things had to change.

But she didn’t know how. 

Long story short: Angela got her divorce, and is back to being herself again. She travels several times a year and has sworn off courgettes for life!

Then there's Helen

Helen, a successful accountant, had no problem understanding the finances. That wasn’t her block.

Helen’s biggest struggle was letting go of the idea that the children she and her husband Stewart shared would be damaged by a divorce.

Helen’s mother had instilled in her that marriage was forever and you stuck it out for the sake of the children.

Helen needed support to understand that she was responsible for making decisions in her own relationship - not her mother.

Gradually Helen began to see that making good decisions for herself meant implementing boundaries with her mother, her husband and herself. (And, spoiler: her children were fine).

Or Chen

Chen, a yoga teacher, came to me terrified that she’d lose the business she and her husband had built together.

She was lonely and miserable in her relationship. All they did was focus on building the business.

There was no passion or quality time.

Chen didn't think the business was worth it, but she said Andrew wasn’t listening to her as he was too focused on the money.

When Chen learned the skills she needed to express herself without complaining or making Andrew feel attacked, he was able to hear what she was actually saying.

Chen wanted more of his time and attention for herself and not the business.

She wanted their relationship to be as important as building that.

Three years on both their relationship and their business are thriving.