Is âShould I Be A Lady Who Leavesâ for you?Â
Youâre unhappy in your relationship. You feel ignored, lonely or bored. You think about leaving frequently, but fear holds you back. What about the children? How will I manage financially? How can I start again? Can I make it on my own?Â
You donât quite trust yourself, yet you know thereâs more out there for you. You long for connection, emotional intimacy and partnership - perhaps what you once had in this relationship. What if there was a way to get it back?Â
Youâre not ready to throw in the towel yet, but you know itâs time to look your future in the eye: explore all options, take action, face your fears and change the way you are showing up in your relationship.
If youâreâŚ
- A driven career woman who has her life together in the workplace but struggling to get your needs met in your personal life
- A stay-at-home mum who feels invisible and have lost your identity in your relationship
- A woman who has experienced past traumas that are impacting your adult relationship.
- A woman who knows is pretty sure your relationship is over, but terrified about what happens next
- A woman who really doesnât want her relationship to be over, but canât carry on like this
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âŚYouâre in the right place.
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Should I Be a Lady Who Leaves will give you the tools, inspiration and confidence to trust yourself in any decision that you make in your relationship. You might end up leaving, with grace and confidence. You might end up staying, with grace and confidence.
And the best thing is, the tools and skills youâll learn can transform ALL your relationships, personal and professional, for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
By the end of Should I Be A Lady Who Leaves you will:
Deeply understand yourself and the road that led you here
To change whatâs happening now, you need to learn how to observe and reflect on patterns you have followed in all your relationships with self compassion and empathy. Youâll learn tools to help you unlock your deepest held unconscious beliefs, and strengthen the most important relationship of all: with yourself.Â
Understand your relationship dynamic
Youâll learn how to assess your relationship with openness and curiosity. Youâll reflect through the lens of deeply understanding yourself, and uncover what strategies both you and your partner bring to the relationship to get their needs met. And how these might change, if needed.
Know how to establish and maintain healthy boundaries
Boundaries are healthy habits. They speak to how you treat yourself and how you allow others to treat you. This powerful shift alone will change everything about the way you show up in all your relationships.
Understand your options
The unknown can be terrifying. Whether you stay or leave, there will be work ahead, but youâll learn exactly what lies in store. So your decision will be fully informed, and you make your move with full confidence and clarity.
Trust yourself
Trust yourself: two small words with massive impact. When you have learned how to really, truly trust yourself, everything changes - forever. It means your decisions are built on a solid foundation of personal resilience, and a firm belief that you have all the inner resources you need to support you throughout your life.
Have a plan
Youâll have made your decision and pinpointed your exact next steps. Whether youâre recommitting to your relationship and need support with that reconnection, or youâre clear itâs time to leave and need help with the practical and legal implications, understanding your next steps builds confidence and provides your own individual road map to your future. And the peace of mind youâve been craving.
Testimonials
"What I liked about you Emma is that you didn't tell me what I should do. Instead you gave me the tools to make the decision that was right for me and the courage to take action "
SUNITA
"Emma is a coach of exceptional skill"
Dr HENRIE LIDIARD
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Success Stories
Success isnât about whether you stay or go, itâs about the outcome thatâs right for you. Itâs about looking your reality in the eye and taking action.
Let me tell you about Angela.
Angela came to me because she knew sheâd made a mistake marrying Michael.
Sheâd wanted someone stable and calm (something she thought she wasnât), but 8 years on, she was BORED.
Michael didnât have the same zest for life she had.
Things came to a head over a solitary soggy courgette left at the back of the fridge.
Michael hated food waste and his meltdown when Angela dared bin the decaying vegetable was the last straw.
Angela knew things had to change.
But she didnât know how.Â
Long story short: Angela got her divorce, and is back to being herself again. She travels several times a year and has sworn off courgettes for life!
Then thereâs Helen.
Helen, a successful accountant, had no problem understanding the finances. That wasnât her block.
Helenâs biggest struggle was letting go of the idea that the children she and her husband Stewart shared would be damaged by a divorce.
Helenâs mother had instilled in her that marriage was forever and you stuck it out for the sake of the children.
Helen needed support to understand that she was responsible for making decisions in her own relationship - not her mother.
Gradually Helen began to see that making good decisions for herself meant implementing boundaries with her mother, her husband and herself. (And, spoiler: her children were fine).
Or Chen
Chen, a yoga teacher, came to me terrified that sheâd lose the business she and her husband had built together.
She was lonely and miserable in her relationship. All they did was focus on building the business.
There was no passion or quality time.
Chen didn't think the business was worth it, but she said Andrew wasnât listening to her as he was too focused on the money.
When Chen learned the skills she needed to express herself without complaining or making Andrew feel attacked, he was able to hear what she was actually saying.
Chen wanted more of his time and attention for herself and not the business.
She wanted their relationship to be as important as building that.
Three years on both their relationship and their business are thriving.
What if Chen hadnât been willing to do the work and decided to throw in the towel?
She and Andrew would probably have divorced.
What if Helen had stayed frozen with fear that sheâd ruin her childrenâs life with divorce? Sheâd be stuck in an unhappy marriage, and her children would be picking up on that unhappiness too, because children arenât stupid.
When you understand what you need, and get confident in making decisions, your life gets a whole lot better. Angela, Helen and Chen know this, and, deep down, you know it too.
YOU
If you do nothing else, this module has the power to change everything, both within your relationships and in every other aspect of your life. Because it gets to the heart of YOU. Itâs like being your own detective, psychologist and coach: youâll have a clear understanding of what drives you, what matters and what you really need from relationships.
Module Highlights:
- Understand your attachment style
- Create your own personal values hierarchy
- Learn what role trauma plays in your relationships
YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Youâll bring your newly-found self-knowledge to examine your relationship. After working through this module youâll understand your relationship patterns, be able to specify how you know when things are going well, and how to communicate openly about what you want and need.
Module Highlights:
- Reflect on your relationship history
- Communication in relationships
- Do you both want the same things?
YOUR OPTIONS
Now you have clarity on you and your relationship, it's time to consider the options and opportunities open to you. Neither decision is easy to make, or implement. Thereâs work ahead, but itâs a whole lot more manageable when you understand what you need to consider.
Module Highlights:
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Emotional considerations of staying or leaving
- Practical and legal considerations of staying or leaving
- The impact of staying or leaving on your children
MAKING A DECISION
Flipping a coin, making a pros and cons list, asking your bestie: these are all ways to make decisions, and none of them are ideal! Module Four teaches you strategies to be confident in your decision-making so you can move forward with emotional freedom and clarity.Â
Module Highlights:
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Learn the structure of good decision making
- Weigh up your options
- Create an action plan
NEXT STEPS
A decision without a plan leaves you hanging! In this module Iâll walk you through everything you need to do to calmly, rationally, take the next steps with your decision. Having a plan means youâll know what success looks like and youâll stay focussed even when things get challenging.
Module Highlights:
- Recommitting to your relationshipÂ
- Creating a divorce plan
- Seeing it through
Plus These Bonuses to Help You Become Your Best Self
TRUST YOURSELF: A PRACTICAL GUIDE TO BEING YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND
AÂ self-study guide to help you build trust in yourself. Youâll learn why developing trust in yourself is so vital for every relationship in your life. And Iâll share practice exercises to help you strengthen the trust muscle.Â
(A ÂŁ67 Value)
What you'll get:
- Self-reflective journaling prompts
- Exercises in learning to trust your gut
- Mastering your inner critic
THEÂ HEALTHYÂ RELATIONSHIPSÂ CHECKLIST
What does a healthy relationship look like? What does it NOT look like? When youâre struggling with relationship doubts itâs hard to know. This checklist will help you diagnose the health of your relationship in an instant.
(A ÂŁ67 Value)
What You'll Get:
- Relationship green flags
- What give and take looks like
- Red flags to watch out for
PRIVATEÂ MEMBERSÂ PODCAST
Weekly podcast episodes specifically curated for Should I Be a Lady a Lady Who Leaves. Let me offer added guidance, support and encouragement as you work through the modules, so you stay on track and get the most out of Should I Be A Lady Who Leaves
(A ÂŁ100 Value)
What You'll Get:
- Weekly episodes to support each of the five modules of 5-10 minutes
- Bonus episodes to further enhance and support your journey
- Additional PDFs to support the podcast
NAVIGATINGÂ HIGH-CONFLICTÂ RELATIONSHIPS
Many women struggle to make decisions because they are in a high-conflict relationship. Recognising when you are in a high-conflict relationship is often challenging, but itâs crucial to getting the appropriate support and strategies in place to help you navigate your next steps.
(A ÂŁ100 Value)
What You'll Get:
- Recognising high-conflict personalities
- Understanding how to manage a high-conflict personality
- Strategies for support
When you enrol during this special, limited time period,
youâll get:
Should I Be a Lady Who Leaves
(A ÂŁ999 Value)
- 5 in depth modules giving you all the tools you need to build trust, resilience and set boundaries for healthy decision making in this and ALL your relationships
- Clarity of what a healthy, happy relationship is for you Â
- The ability to trust yourself now and in the future Â
- Full knowledge of what happens if you decide to stay or leave Â
- A unique road map of your way forward, created by youÂ
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Should I Be a Lady Who Leaves is backed by a 7-day money back guarantee so you can experience the programme risk-free.
Investing in any programme is a big deal. You want to know that youâre investing wisely in a programme that will get you results.Â
I hear you!
Thatâs why when you know you can experience the programme benefits with the confidence of a money back guarantee. Put down your enrollment nerves and focus on diving deep into Module One and understanding yourself before making a final commitment.
If you donât feel that Should I Be a Lady Who Leaves is for you by 4pm BST / GMT 7 days from the date of purchase, simply reach out, show me the work youâve done on module one, and Iâll refund your investment. Full Details here.
Frequently Asked Questions
Emma, youâre a Divorce Coach so are you going to talk me into leaving my partner?
Iâm not married, can I still use this programme?
Iâm scared about what might come up for me
How long do I have access to the course materials?
What format is the course content delivered in?
Will the programme be easy?
How much time do I need to invest?
When does Should I Be a Lady Who Leaves start and when does it end?
How much does it cost?
Will my partner find out Iâm in the programme?
I am experiencing domestic abuse, is it safe for me to join this programme?
What if I am unhappy with the programme?
Is this course for women only, or can men join too?
I'm not in the UK, can I join this programme?
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Still not sure?
If youâre thinking âthis sounds amazing, but Iâm still not 100% sureâ, keep reading:
You should give Should I Be a Lady Who Leaves a 7-day risk free trial if youâre motivated by any of the following:
You badly want you back
Even though itâs scary to admit it, you know that youâve totally lost yourself in this relationship. Youâre lonely, frustrated and yearning for intimate connection. You're ready to face the possibility that that might or might not be with your current partner but youâre done with waiting for things to be different.
Youâre willing to face your own demons
Even though outwardly you lay a lot of the issues in your relationship at the feet of your partner, deep down you know that if change is going to happen, it starts with you. That feels daunting, but itâs a lot less daunting when you have a process in place to guide you through it.
You recognise thereâs no perfect time and waiting is not the answer. It doesnât get easier, it just gets later.
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It doesnât mean that youâre jumping for joy at the prospect of some sweaty conversations with yourself and your partner but you do know that 2024 is the time to finally get off the fence and make decisions about the future of your relationship.
Should I Be a Lady Who Leaves isnât magic but it is transformative
No one can ever tell you whatâs right for YOU. Unfortunately, you have to figure that out for yourself. And you already know that - youâre a smart woman. You just need to know how.
Whether youâre pretty sure that your relationship is over, or you want to try to stay together, you just want to stop driving yourself mad with indecision and feel in your heart and gut that the decision you make is right.Â
You know this is true: anticipation of a thing is worse than doing the thing. The same is true of this decision. Iâm not going to lie: thereâs work ahead whether you stay or leave. But your load will be lifted, youâll be able to breathe, knowing youâve made a decision thatâs right for you, and is one you can move forward with confidently. Imagine how it feels to let go of all the anxiety, procrastination and frustration that has dogged you for months and maybe even years? Surely you donât want to be carrying all that a moment longer? Â
Facing your fears is scary - and itâs also where you do the most personal growth. Ask yourself which is more scary - the thought of your relationship never changing or the thought of you being the one to change it?
You can do this, and with lifetime access to the programme you really can take this at your own pace with no pressure. I canât wait to support you as you learn the skills that will change your relationships for the better, forever.
Love,
Emma x
